I confess that I visit a myriad of sites on the internet. When I take a break I could be anywhere. This morning, before I started work, I visited a forum where I read the following that cracked me up. They were talking about relationships and how everything is hunky dory when you first start a new relationship. Then it all goes pfffft. I’ve borrowed a few paragraphs from one post. I’d give credit for my “borrowing,” but they’re all anonymous.
There’s a reason they call this the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship.
Eventually, you get comfortable enough with your new beloved that your best behavior starts to slip, your hidden issues come out to play, and you each get to start seeing “the real me.” And, often, “the real me” is not what either you or your beloved were expecting, or prepared for–or willing to commit to. He goes back to being rude to waitresses and shitty to other service workers, and starts making jokes at your expense. She, it turns out, has over $100K in student loan debt incurred by getting a useless degree at a fancy liberal arts college, and no means of ever paying it back. He has kids and an ex-wife who he never mentioned before. She wants kids, but can’t see herself doing it in a traditional monogamous relationship, and asks if you know what polyamory is. He’s a convicted felon, which will sharply limit his job prospects and ability to find better housing for a long time to come. She has turned her bedroom closet into a shrine to her all-time favorite band, Nickelback.
You get the picture.
I thought it was funny, but not quite as bad as most relationships. Evidently, the poster had a bad experience. However, I am fascinated by his/her mind. S/he also said this, which I totally agree with:
We live in a culture that keeps pushing the message that wanting something is the same as being inherently deserving/worthy of it…
I do enjoy profundities first thing in the morning. 🙂