Living with Pets

Do you think we live with pets in order to have something to love?

Maybe that’s the wrong question to ask.

Do you think we live with dogs when our children are no longer at home so that we have someone to care for, to worry about, to fuss at? In other words, does motherhood/parenthood simply take a different dimension?

I know the relationship I had with Flash – and currently with Stanley – would be different if I had a family environment, other than just the two of us. In other words, if I’d had little ones at home still or a husband, or teenagers, the entire dynamic would have changed.

One of the questions that people get asked when they get older is: do you have a pet? The reason for asking is that scientists have found that older people have a better quality of life when they have a pet. It’s more than just a lower blood pressure. It’s a sense of connection.

I think something wonderful happens between people and animals, be they dogs, cats, guinea pigs or hedgehogs. We reach out to another creature and are willing to take on the responsibility of this being not for any tangible gain, but out of love.  Doesn’t that say something wonderful about people? 

6 thoughts on “Living with Pets”

  1. Well it’s my husband and I and my daughter and ever since we were married 34 years ago we’ve always had pets. I’m happy with my family but pets bring something different. They provide total unconditional love. If your lucky the only human you generally receive that kinda of love is your Mother. I can’t speak the same of a Father because mine died when I was three. I just know that they’re always happy and excited to see you and that makes me happy to see that kind of devotion and love.

  2. Pets are just simply fur wrapped love. Humans can have special relationships with other humans but we relate to pets differently , They are creatures who just love having you around

  3. I’ve always loved animals and I do believe part of the connection was wanting to be loved and to love. I had a cat as a child that was taken away and I don’t think I ever got over that. My husband and I got our first dog the second year of our marriage and when he was deployed she was my lifeline. Twelve years later after our “baby” passed we got another dog who was the best dog ever. We had her a year before having our family and she was just wonderful with the kids. I then started caring for ferals/strays and have had cats ever since. I tend to bond with them immediately. It does give one purpose and for those who live alone, I think even more. You have to get up in the morning – they need you (as much or even more than you need them).

  4. My family is made up of people who have no common sense when it comes to animals. My son just made a 600 mile round trip to another state in order to adopt a dog who was about to be euthanized.

    Nearly everyone in the family lives with rescued dogs. And generally it is more than one.

    My kids grew up with lots of fish, guinea pigs, tropical birds, cats and dogs. We also had children from other families who were with us for different periods of time.

    I taught my children to have empathy for other creatures. And I am proud that my grandchildren have absorbed that same idea.

    I believe we are here to care for one another, other creatures and our planet.

    Humans make choices. When those choices include looking outside themselves, it is a good thing.

    After losing my two beloved dogs to cancer, I could not face having another pet. I was wrong. It turns out that I could not face not having a creature to love.

    And I can now make an announcement about Sonny (my dog), he now wags his tail at me. He is also coming to me in order that I can pet him. Those are big changes and it only took a little more than 2 years. So, it turns out, not only has he made my life richer, but I am reminding him that people can be good to have around.

  5. My husband’s grandmother had to give up her pet bird when she went into a nursing home, but she was allowed to keep her beta fish. She enjoyed it, and I’m certain it helped her stay around longer having the fish to care for.

    It doesn’t always have to be a pet one can hold.

  6. Not only people. It is amazing how much a pet is willing to take from those they love. We pick them up, take them to the vet, give them baths, have them groomed, go walking in the snow or rain, and encourage them to sleep in our laps in not the most comfortable positions for them. My husband and I decided it was not fair to have another dog when we couldn’t guarantee to out live it, go for walks or give it any real quality of life. We are aging and our health is at times questionable. The thought of having to re-home any animal is not something we are comfortable with. We love them too much, and have had them in our lives for many years.

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