Definition of opinion (Miriam Webster)
2a : belief stronger than impression and less strong than positive knowledge
I’m always amazed by people who are so definite about certain things. They know, without a shadow of a doubt, how something is, how it should be, how it must be, now and forever without end, amen.
In other words, their opinions are set in stone.
It’s been years since I knew everything. In fact, the older I get the more I realize how much I don’t know. In my twenties I was like most people. I knew I knew what I needed to know. (I also thought I was immortal.)
I was intransigent in my opinions. For example, I once said that I hated vampires. Who knew that I’d have a wonderful time writing about vampires, witches, and werewolves? I once stated that I would never write short stories. Um, did that, too.
I have countless examples of beliefs/opinions that dissolved over the years or changed wildly.
In other words I thought in black and white. I rarely see black and white anymore. What life – and maybe I should make that Life – has proven to me is that pretty much everything is gray.
I will hold out and not form an opinion until I have as many facts as I can. Then, I’m still not completely unwilling to change that opinion.
An acquaintance of mine once said to me, “You always change your mind. Don’t you ever have an opinion and keep it?”
I was mildly confused by the question. Why on earth would you continue to hold a belief in the face of new information, a shift of perspective, or additional thought? I don’t vacillate, but I do change my mind sometimes.
One of the things I’ve noticed about age is that it sometimes fixes your thoughts in concrete. I honestly don’t think anything ages you as much as being inflexible. Yes, I have oodles of core beliefs that never change. But other stuff? Opinions? Those do change.
What do you think?