One of my core beliefs is:
If you can think it, you can do it.
Let’s add four rules:
- You have to obey nature. For example, you can’t fly. You’re not a bird. So, thinking to yourself that “I’m going to fly, I really am,” is pretty worthless.
- You can’t just sit in a closet and repeat that mantra all day long. You have to do something in pursuit of whatever you want.
- You have to keep it to yourself. Like it or not, oodles of people feel it necessary to rain on your parade. Don’t give them the chance.
- You have to believe it. This may take a few days/weeks/months, but if you repeat something to yourself often enough you begin to absorb it into your belief system. (Psst – that’s why it’s so important to talk to yourself nicely. If you call yourself names or label yourself badly, you begin to sincerely believe those awful things about yourself.)
When I was in the corporate world, I repeated something on my way to work every day.
I’m a New York Times and a USA Today bestselling author.
I must have said that about a hundred times every day times a few years. Of course, I also got up every morning at 2:00 AM and wrote until I had to get ready for work at 6:00 AM. Every single day.
It didn’t even dawn on me when I reached that milestone. The belief was so much a part of me that it was no big deal. Oh, yeah, I made it. In my mind I’d already gotten there.
Same thing with quitting smoking.
I am a non-smoker.
A very short sentence, but a powerful message to my mind. Because I believed it, I couldn’t smoke. I could not pick up a cigarette because I was a non-smoker.
I’ve done that with other behavior I wanted to change. Actions begin with thoughts. If you want to change how you behave, change your thoughts first.
This moment of profundity has been brought to you by my philosophical side.