I originally started this blog post with the comment that “I think writers fall into an Either/Or trap sometimes.” Then I gave examples, such as:
- Either we’re “traditionally” published or we “self-publish”.
- Either we’re plotters or we write by the seat of our pants.
- Either we write for ourselves or we write for readers.
But then I realized the either/or conundrum isn’t just for writers. We humans are pretty good when it comes to pigeonholing people. We place people in categories all the time.
You can probably think of dozens of examples where we put people into either/or camps.
Yet once we get some life experience we realize almost everything has tinges of gray.
In the above example about writers, for example, I’m both traditionally published and self-published. I’m a plotter who allows myself to write by the seat of my pants sometimes. I have to write the book that’s calling to me, but I almost always have a reader on my shoulder.
I wish we could understand that other categories are as fluid.