“I was wondering if your readers talked to their spouses about the romance novels they are reading. I will tell my husband that the book I am reading is …’good” or “bad” and tell him why I think so….but any more info would make his eyes glaze over. Is it something women talk about with their man I wonder?”
Do you think your husband’s reaction would have been the same if you’d talked to him about a new thriller or a spy novel? The problem is that with romance, as a genre, people have certain expectations.
- That the book is girly and has too much luvvvv.
- That it’s unrealistic.
- That it’s all sex scenes.
I’d love to see more men pick up a romance. I think they’d be pleasantly surprised.
To answer the critics, I’d say that most great books feature relationships, and that’s what romance is all about. Realism? I read for escapism, to be entertained, to be enlightened. Too much of the real world is not a good thing, especially when I want a happy ending.
Now, sex scenes. I think you can portray the relationship between two people quicker in a sex/love scene than in any other way. I’ve always said that it’s easy to write a sex scene, but damn hard to write a love scene. But where else is a human being as vulnerable both physically and emotionally?
I think I segued a little from your question, Mariellen, but I’d be very curious about everyone else’s experience. Do you share your romance books with your spouse?